Pushing up the Sky by Terra Trevor

Terra Trevor’s ‘Pushing up the Sky’ is a revelation of the struggles and triumphs packed into the hyphens between Korean and Native American and American. From her, we learn that adoption can best be mutual, that the adoptive parent needs acculturation in the child’s ways. With unflinching honesty and unfailing love, Trevor details the risks and heartaches of taking in, the bittersweetness of letting go, and the everlasting bonds that grow between them all. With ‘Pushing up the Sky’, the ‘literature of adoption’ comes of age as literature, worthy of an honored place in the human story.

—Reviewed by Robert Bensen, Editor of Children of the Dragonfly: Native American Voices on Child Custody and Education, The University of Arizona Press. 

A mixed blood Native American, Terra Trevor and her white husband had one child before choosing to complete their family through adoption. They adopted from South Korea twice: an infant with medical needs, and an older child. There are two stories in Terra Trevor’s personal account. The first is about her oldest daughter experiencing difficulty adjusting to adoption and becoming the oldest child. The second story is about her son, also adopted from Korea, diagnosed with a brain tumor, and how this family, or any family, must endure crises and tragedy and still find a way to go on. This is a story of compromises and insights, profound joy, deep suffering, and terrific rewards. Parenting birth and adopted children, is one theme of this book. Most of all, it is a story on the meaning of family, and learning to let go of expectations and to forge a new identity.

The title ‘Pushing up the Sky,’ is from a Native American story about the power of people working together for a common good, this is the theme in Terra Trevor's memoir.

Hardcover: 230 pages
Publisher: KAAN; 1st edition (July 29, 2006)
Language: English
ISBN-10: 0977604608
ISBN-13: 978-0977604609