I believe the single most significant thing we’ve done is the comment to racial and cultural diversity my husband and I made early on in our relationship. The moment we decided to become parents we began working towards building the kind of multiracial lifestyle we wanted our children to be surrounded with. This along with the prep work and preparing we began the moment we realized that it wasn’t going to be easy. My husband remembers how uncomfortable he felt when he first met me and found himself the only white man among American Indians. I spent my growing up years in a mixed race area of Los Angeles, and my husband had grown up in an all-white community. Blending our lives allowed us to realize we each needed to give ourselves the opportunity to be in frequent situations where we would be in the minority race and culture.
Today as a mother my life in no way resembles what I had hoped for, or expected it to be, and yet I can honestly tell you I deeply value and am thankful for where this journey has led me. And now that my kids are grown I enjoy seeing how my perspective has evolved and changed over the past three decades.
My special thanks to the editors where these pieces originally appeared.